How to Maintain Close and Intimate Friendships

img_21532In this fast and furious world, it can be difficult to establish and maintain truly close and intimate friendships. People are busy; people are running to and fro at a frantic pace with barely a chance to keep all their plates spinning at one time. As such, even the most infectious personality can juggle two or three two or three close friends at a time. Since truly close relationships are so rare, it cannot hurt to learn extra insights into making friendships work. This article will discuss more tips for maintaining close and intimate friendships.

Find the Best in Others

The first tip is to proactively seek out the best in others. These days we are constantly barraged with bad news about the faltering economy and shocking discoveries of corruption. It is so easy to become cynical and think the worst. This attitude can leak into our relationships too. However, if you want to maintain your close and intimate friendships you need to force yourself to believe the best of your friends and acquaintances. Being proactive to believe the best will pep you up with enthusiasm which will draw your friends ever closer to you.

Listen Without Judgment

Second, be a shoulder to cry on and an ear that listens without judgment. I admit that I am not good at this. But, everyone needs a sympathetic ear to hear their heartaches and frustrations. No doubt such conversations should happen alone and remain confidential, but a good friend sits hand in hand with his or her dearest companions when they needs to shout “Unfair, unfair!”

Keep Embarrassing Moments Confidential

The third tip is to keep embarrassing moments confidential. This means that as far as it depends on you, you never gossip about a friend’s bloopers. Sure, people should be thick skinned and learn to laugh at themselves, but a close and intimate friendship lives off of trust, especially emotional trust. So be loyal to your bosom buddy when they are not present by not blabbing about their slip ups.

Maintaining close and intimate friendships is not easy in this fast paced life. This article discussed three tips for keeping warm relationships with your dearest companions.

How to Find New Friends

how-to-make-new-friends-003-women-having-fun-things-to-do-with-friends-001-bikingWhen you are younger friendship seemed to come naturally. You sat next to each other every day in math class, you both wore a green shirt to school, you’re a similar age to a co worker in the office or you latch on to the friends of your chosen partner. As we grow up and go through life it becomes harder to make lasting connections with people. Your life can turn into a sea of acquaintances in the blink of an eye. No matter how many pottery classes you take, gym classes you join or volunteer session you do it can be very hard to make lasting friendships with people.

Don’t stress! There are lots of ways to make new friends in our age by following a few simple steps and keeping a positive mind in your mission to find new friends.

Tip 1) Initial contact is the most important step! Although it may seem weird to say to someone of the same sex would you like to go for coffee sometime. If you add that you are new in town and don’t know people or that your best gal pal moved away and you are looking for some more female time to talk about the latest Brad Pitt movie can help to ease the situation.

Tip 2) Smile! We’ve all heard it and we all know it but we all too often forget that a smile to a stranger is the best way to appear friendly and approachable.

Tip 3) Be a Yes person! Much like the movie of the same name, start saying yes to invites you get, classes you get invited to or after work get together. Although you may not initially feel comfortable getting out of the house and off the couch watching TV is the best way to meet new people you wouldn’t normally meet. Make a point of saying more ‘Yes’ than ‘no’ when it comes to social invites.

Tip 4) Go virtual! There are lots of website outs there that allow you to log and connect with others. Try joining an online forum or searching for websites that allow you to make friends locally.

Tip 5) Once you have met someone interesting it takes time and patience to get that person to become a friend. The best way to do this is to listen and ask questions. Remember that most people favorite subject is themselves. Try and focus the conversation or discussion constantly back to the person. Ask them about the jewelery they are wearing. When they mention something in passing, go back and focus on it. “When i traveled to Africa… ” “You’ve been to Africa? What was that like?” Take a genuine interest in the other person and you will never run out of things to talk about.

Tip 6) Be Patient! Studies have shown that it takes at least 6 meetings with a person before you will develop friendly feelings with them. Pick a new movie and invite the friend along, ask them to dinner after class the following week etc. Don’t expect your friendship to blossom over night.

With a little bit of time, smiles and activity you are sure to meet and make some new friends in your life.

Tips to Make Friendship Strong

p_101481704Friendship consists of trust, belief and understanding. Many poets have written lots of quotes to teach us about its importance in life. Many people want to make lots of friends but they don’t know art of making new friends. Many girls and boys make friends but they do not know how to keep friends, sometime they keep friends but don’t know how to make them feel happy. There are many misunderstandings occur in every relationships but many people don’t know how to avoid those complications. They don’t even know how to say sorry to their friends.

This article is all about how to make your friendship unbreakable with the help of some good quotes and jokes. I am sure that you will overcome all of your weakness after going through it.

So here we go:-

Yes, ego is the killer of any relationship. Always remember this quote “Life is nothing without friends.” You should keep your ego aside while making up with your mates. Sometimes, your friends are so busy to call/meet you, sometimes they could not express how they love you, so please try to understand their problems. Never keep your expectations too high. Be polite and take initiative to contact them. Talk to them and forget about ego.

Defend them:
Your real exam happens at that time when someone goes against your mates. Be on your their side and try to defend them. The quotation like “A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself” inspire us to help friends. Believe me, when you argue on behalf of your friend, he/she will feel so glad. It takes nothing but an attitude of care for you companion. You need to soothe your mate and stand on his place.

Show him/her clear picture:
Sometime people can not see the truth. So when your friend is not in position to understand the things, get up and help him/her in showing the real picture. If necessary you can rebuke him. He/she may feel wrong at that time, but after sometime he/she will realize how true you were.

Be there in bad time:
Friends help each other in bad time. So when your friends are is in need of your support, be there. Leave all work aside and reach to them for support and help. It helps in making his/her morale and confidence high. Friendship quotes also teach us to help friends i.e. “A friend is one who walks in when others walk out.”

These are some basics to keep your friendship alive. Apply them and enjoy life.

How to be Romantic in Long Distance Relationships

long-distance-relationships-like-crazyThroughout our experience working with long distance couples, we frequently heard that long distance relationship does not have the elements of romance in it. This is not caused by the lack of love in long distance relationship but couples in such situation just do not know how to be romantic to each other. Romance in long distance relationship is necessary and it can make your relationship stronger regardless how far your lover may be.

There are million of things you can do to increase the romance in your long distance relationship. The basic rule here is to build your ability to show your distance partner that you really cherish and value the relationship throughout your LDR. Below are some of the areas you must understand and practice in order to increase the romance in your long distance relationship.

Sweet Talk
Communication is the most important thing in a long distance relationship and you must be able to talk sweetly over the telephone or any cheap channel that you can grab hold. Tell your partner that how you have missed and love them on their absence. Remember to tell your distance partner that you still treasure and care for them even when they are not physically around. Let them know that although you cannot be with them but you constantly think, enchanted and fascinated by them. Sweet talk can never be too much and you can do it as often as you like whenever you got the change to speak or communicate with your distance lover.

Listening with Care
Listening is the next most important thing in long distance relationship. It is important to be able to listen and understand completely the things that your partner is telling you whether it is about their day, wants or dreams. You are their only trusted person that they can look for to share and let their anger off without having to worry and therefore you must be able to listen with care when your partner needs you to lend them your ear. Sharing with your partner will always allow you to build and enhance the romantic moment in your relationship.

Love Note
Nothing is better that a written note with “I love you” message on it. Include this note whenever you send a letter to your distance partner or every time you send something to them. When you had the chance to meet your long distance partner, slip this note into their wallet, handbag, briefcase and etc without their knowledge. The note can be anything from simple “I miss you” to full blown love letter letting you distance partner know how much you have miss him or her.

Virtual Kiss
It may seem that kissing your partner is almost impossible in long distance relationship but you can always give a virtual kiss to your partner. You can always make a lipstick mark on a handkerchief with your mouth or write a “Kiss in Advance” note on a paper and send it to your partner. Tell your partner that you wanted to give them a kiss in advance and ask them to keep the handkerchief or note to remind you of the kiss when he or she sees you the next time.

Having Fun
Having fun is an important and serious matter in long distance relationship. Take the time to have fun with your distance lover. Both of your can always spend your time playing online computer game, surfing the internet, watching a movie at the same time or as well as spending the whole evening telling jokes to each other on the phone. Remember the good times that you both had while together and share them while chatting on the phone. You can also tease and make joke on your partner just to lighten up your conversation from time to time. Anyway you must know the limit as over teasing can cause hurt on your partner. The idea is to have fun while both of you had the opportunity to talk to each other on the phone.

Courtesy and Respect
Courtesy and respect are very important in long distance relationship. You partner may not be physically around but they are still part of your life and a little courtesy or respect can definitely pull both of your closer to each other. Remember to seek for your partner’s opinion in making a decision concerning the relationship and this will indirectly show them that you still care for them. Being romantic is to care, respect and understand your partner regardless where they may be.

Giving Compliments
Complimenting your partner is another way to show that you appreciate them in a long distance relationship. Think of something to complement your distance partner every day or every week. It does not have to be anything big or major. Something like “You look beautiful today” or “Your voice is sweet” will make your partner feel nice about them self even they are far away. On the other hand, you must remember to give only a sincere and honest compliment to your long distance partner. Your partner will certainly feel romantic knowing that you still admire and appreciate them despite the distance.

Above are the areas of romance to get you started and you can always create your own romantic moment by using the above examples. Be passionate about your LDR and romance will automatically show up at your doorstep. Lastly but not least I, on behalf of would like to wish you all the best to your long distance relationship.