Tips To Create More Fun And Playfulness With Your Partner

robo-moMy husband and I spend a lot of time together. We have gone on 3-week vacations together, in which we are with each other almost 24 hours of every single day. And like any other couple, we do have friction from time to time, but we never get tired of being around each other. We haven’t needed to “take a break” or retreat to our respective “caves”.

Why? My theory is two-fold. We are able to spend so much time together because we allow each other our own space (even when we are together) and because we are playful and have fun with each other.

While writing this, I realized that having a great relationship with someone really has more to do with having a great relationship with yourself first. Think about it…if you have a lot of doubts, fear and negativity in your own life, what do you really have to offer to another person, besides a warm body at night?

A common value that my husband and I share is that we are both COMMITTED to evolving and growing as human beings first – in our work, life, spirituality and relationships. We are both continuously working on being the best human beings we can be. The positive benefits of living this way automatically drip over into our relationship with each other.

We are far from perfect, and still have our quibbles, but I have pondered what makes our relationship fun and work so well for us. This is what I have come up with and hope that my relationship tips can help you in your relationship.

Don’t Take Life So Seriously
More than a few times, I have gotten caught up in the ridiculous delusion of taking life too serious. A recent example is when I got an attitude with my husband for making me late to an appointment because he wanted to stop at the post office beforehand to pick up a package. The woman at the post office couldn’t find his package and ended up spending 20 minutes looking for it. I waited outside in the car, frantically texting him to make sure he was aware that I was going to be late.

As he casually strolled out to the car, I lost it. How inconsiderate of him to not be rushing as if his life depended on it. Then he got in the car and leisurely searched for his sunglasses and put them on before starting the car. I was on fire.

This would have been the perfect time for a self-reminder not to take life so seriously. But no, I had to grill him first and try to manipulate him into feeling guilty for his inconsiderate actions. I was on a roll. I was clutching onto anger and unwilling to let it go. And all for what??

NOTHING.

Thankfully he didn’t entertain my negative reaction and turned up the radio and started to sing.

JFZ (Judgment Free Zone)
My husband will actually sing out the above phrase to me when he feels that I am judging him. It snaps me out of my judgment mode and actually makes me laugh. Open communication creates emotional connection and bonding. The death of a relationship is when one partner or the other feels unable to openly express themselves without being judged by the other.

Judgements prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances. ~ Wayne Dyer

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself as someone who needs to judge. ~ Wayne Dyer

Get Over Things Quickly
I have learned that feeling good is way more important than holding on to grudges or anger. I see feeling negative as poison and want to get it out of my system as soon as possible. I am much quicker now to release negative feelings than I used to be. What used to take me days to get over now takes me just minutes or seconds. I have learned to just let it go. Being happy feels so good.

Always Be Learning
Once you stop learning, you are boring. If you don’t question yourself or life, you are boring. My husband and I are always learning new things. It keeps life and our relationship interesting. Currently, our “thing” is that once a week, we plan something new to do. Last week, we went to Bingo night, which neither of us have done before. This week we are going ghost hunting.

Make the Mundane Insanely Fun
This boils down to having fun no matter what you’re doing or where you’re at. It’s all about the attitude you choose to have. It’s about being random. Doing what you feel like doing without caring what others think. My husband and I do this all the time, every single day.

An example is when my husband left for work one morning and called me just 10 minutes after leaving. When I answered he said “hi”. I was surprised and touched that he was calling just to say hi. Then he immediately said “bye” and hung up. I almost died laughing.

Aside from being random, we make everything into a game. While watching the previews at a movie theater, we will say “yay” or “nay” at the end of each preview signifying whether or not we would watch that movie.

It’s little things like this that add so much fun to what could otherwise be considered mundane.

Don’t Compare. Just Appreciate.
When someone appreciates the work you do or the person you are, how does it make you feel? Great right! This is true of all of us. When I tell my hubby how much I appreciate everything he does for me, it makes him want to continue to do things for me. When he tells me what an awesome woman I am, it makes me want to always be an awesome woman. Focus on and appreciation of the positive aspects of your partner will create more of the positive. Focus on the negative aspects and you will get more of the negative. It’s your decision.

Relationship Tips For Connecting Communication

Triangle_300xHave you ever been trying to talk with your partner about an issue that is difficult for you or has been a point of disagreement between the two of you and one or both of you simply shut down and close the other out? As you probably already know, the way in which you communicate about this tricky topic can make the difference between you two moving closer together and reaching a resolution or the two of you moving further apart.

You may have experienced past discussions where, on some level, communication breaks down and one or both of you disconnect. This place of disconnection is not only detrimental to you and your mate reaching a satisfying agreement about the tricky topic, it can also stand in the way of your relationship being as close and loving as it can be.

Here are 10 relationship tips to help you connect while communicating…

Tip #1: Tune in first

If at all possible, take a few moments by yourself to tune into your feelings about what it is you want to communicate with your mate. Ask yourself if there are other factors contributing to you feeling stirred up about the issue, acknowledge them and then approach you partner from a calmer and clearer place.

Tip #2: Intend to connect

Again, before you approach your love to talk, take even a couple of seconds to set an intention. Make it your intention and priority to connect with your partner. Sometimes challenging discussions turn into a competition about who is right and who is wrong. Enter the conversation intending to connect as you communicate. This intention can help set the tone for your whole exchange.

Tip #3: Speak with integrity

Just because your intention is to connect, we don’t encourage you to be dishonest about how you are feeling or what you want. Connection is not about always agreeing or going along just to keep the peace. Know what is true for you and then be courageous enough to stand by what you want and believe.

Tip #4: Avoid telling stories

We all engage in some amount of “storytelling” or making assumptions about someone else’s experience or thoughts. Become aware of the stories you tend to tell yourself about yourself, your partner, and your relationship. Ask yourself if you know those stories to be true and if you don’t, be willing to let go of (or at least temporarily suspend) those beliefs.

Tip #5: Make communication agreements

If necessary, ask your mate to make an agreement with you about how you will communicate before you begin your discussion. You might choose to set a timer to ensure that you each have uninterrupted time to say what you need to say and then listen to the other person during his or her time. You could also agree that if either of you need to cool off while communicating, you will allow that time but will also specify a new time in which you two will come back to the topic.

Tip #6: Focus on feelings

As you speak with integrity what is true for you, keep yourself focused on feelings. Using “I statements” can be helpful. For example, “I feel fearful when I don’t know your plans.” If you find yourself saying something like: “I feel that you are lying to me,” this is not an “I statement.” Emotions such as mad, angry, sad, frustrated, glad, and happy can help you effectively say what you are feeling.

Tip #7: Be curious rather than accusing

Perhaps the biggest way to shut down communication is to launch accusations at your mate. If your intention is to communicate to connect, then try to shift away from accusing. Instead, get curious about what is going on for your partner. For example, rather than accusing him or her of forgetting a date with you, make a request for information– and truly be curious about the answer. You might combine an “I statement” with curiosity and ask something like: “I felt worried when you didn’t meet me for dinner at the cafe last night. I’m wondering if we miscommunicated about the time of the date or if something happened to prevent you from meeting me?”

Tip #8: Know your partner’s triggers

If you’ve been with your mate for a period of time, you probably know what triggers him or her. These triggers could stem from past experiences– even all the way back to childhood. Irregardless, be aware of specific words or phrases that are “hot button” for your partner and make different choices. They are undoubtedly different triggers than you have, but honor them just the same.

Tip #9: Stay open and present

A conversation is most certainly a two-way exchange. While you can’t force your partner to act or react in particular ways, you can encourage openness as you, yourself, stay open. Listen to what your mate has to say rooted in this present moment. Try not to zone out or fixate on what you plan to say next. Give your partner the presence and openness that you would like given to you.

Tip #10: Learn a new “dance”

Just about every relationship falls into patterns and habits that help create a dynamic or “dance” the two people usually repeat over and over again. If your relationship “dance” has been to communicate in ways that are disconnecting, recognize that and learn a new “dance.” Without judgment, identify the habits and patterns that prevent your relationship from being as close and connected as you’d like it to be and then take steps to release the old and create something new.

Healthy Relationship Tips

202f3c5d7359447986bb7e2fbedc02eeAre you always looking for healthy relationship tips? Do you sometimes wonder whether you’re doing all you can to make the most of your relationship? Do you need help making love last? Most of us need some advice from time to time, and sometimes healthy relationship tips can come from unexpected places. Often, though, the answer is where you least expect it to be – inside yourself.

Start With a Smile

Have you ever noticed that a yawn is contagious? What about a smile? A smile that starts from the eyes and involves all the muscles of your face – in other words, a real smile, is contagious – just like a yawn is. People who see genuine smiles on the faces of others feel like smiling themselves.

One of the best healthy relationship tips is this: Smile at your partner as often as possible. Look in his or her eyes, think about how wonderful he or she makes you feel, and smile slowly. The response will be instantaneous, and negativity will melt away.

Listening

When is the last time you really stopped to listen to what your partner had to say? Actively listening to the person you care about most means participating in a conversation together. Listen to what he or she is telling you, and don’t feel like you’ve got to offer advice. If you understand, say so. If you agree or disagree, talk about why you feel that way. Really listening is one of the best ways to show your partner that you value his or her feelings, and it’s a great way to improve a relationship.

The Gift of Friendship

If you are not good friends with your partner, ask yourself why. The point of an intimate relationship should be to form a lasting friendship, and to create an unbreakable bond that can withstand anything. Healthy relationships are based on mutual trust and understanding. If you want to love each other, you’ve got to like each other, and that means being friends.

Everyone Needs Space

You, and your partner, need the space to be yourselves as individuals. Healthy relationship tips always tell us how to be together – but, how can we be apart? Take some time for yourself each day, and be sure to work on aspects of yourself that need improvement. Find a way to share what you’ve learned. By respecting boundaries and personal space, you respect each other as individuals. Healthy relationship tips tell us that respect is one of the finest aspects of love – so be sure to nurture it.

Togetherness

Last, but certainly not least, find time to spend with your partner each day. Even if you’re apart, make time to talk on the phone or chat online together. While you and your partner do need space and time to work on self improvement, you should never feel like you’re all alone within your relationship. Healthy relationship tips have proven time and again that spending quality time together strengthens bonds and helps us make it through tough times. So enjoy little moments together, and find new ways to appreciate the love you share.

Tips to Keep Your Woman Happy

Tips-To-Keep-Your-Husband-HappyGuys, do you know how to handle relationships? Here are some relationship tips for men to help you keep your woman happy.

Ten Relationship Tips For Men To Keep Your Woman Happy

Tip 1. The first of my relationships tips for men is to always be yourself. I don’t know why it is, but many men don’t feel that they are good enough to catch a beautiful, sexy woman, so they feel they have to put on a show. But, you know something? Most women will tell you that a confident man is the sexiest beast around. Have you ever noticed that some of the ugliest guys have some of the prettiest women? That is because they display a level of confidence that women find more attractive than physical looks.

Tip 2. you don’t have to be over elaborate to impress her. Little things mean a lot. Things like leaving a note for her in the house, saying simply “I love you”, or giving her a bag of her favourite sweets from time to time. Most men think in terms of grand gestures, when in actual fact all the little things you do can add up to a long and lasting relationship.

Tip 3. If you really do want to keep your woman happy, let her know you appreciate her, and never EVER take her for granted. Let her know how much you value her opinions, and how much you enjoy her company.

Tip 4. Never, ever eye up other women when you are with her. If you do, she will be inclined to think that you are comparing her to the woman you’re looking at. Woman have a biological need for monogamy and trust, so resist your natural urges to ogle other women when she’s with you.

Tip 5. The next tip to keep your woman happy is to make her laugh. Unlike men, women list a good sense of humour ahead of good looks and a nice body, so keep her laughing, and there’s a better chance the relationship will last.

Tip 6. Try to find common interests. It may well be that you got together through sharing a interest or hobby, but it does no harm whatsoever to try and develop an interest in a passion that she has. This will show her that you really care about her.

Tip 7. Don’t get sloppy. Just because you got the girl, it doesn’t mean that you can let your appearance go. You may think you don’t have to try anymore, but she will appreciate the fact that you continue to present yourself as being clean, neat, and well groomed.

Tip 8. Make an effort to impress her parents and her girlfriends. If you want to keep your woman happy, she will have to be relaxed about bringing you in to her social circle. Most women need to have reassurance that they have made the right relationship choice, and that will come if you have made a favourable impact on her friends and parents.

Tip 9. Always be considerate and respect her feelings. If you have been dumped and trying to win your ex back, being considerate and respecting her feelings are a must if you get a second chance.

Tip 10. The last of my relationship tips for men to keep your woman happy, is to be open minded to trying new things. When you first start dating everything you do together is new, but after a while, these things become routine. If you find that your relationship is becoming stale, then consider doing different things together.

Follow these ten relationship tips for men, and you will keep your woman happy. If there are problems in the relationship and you are trying to save your marriage, or even get your ex back, this advice works. There’s nothing new or magical here, just plain common sense, so make the effort, and watch your relationship blossom.

How to Maintain Close and Intimate Friendships

img_21532In this fast and furious world, it can be difficult to establish and maintain truly close and intimate friendships. People are busy; people are running to and fro at a frantic pace with barely a chance to keep all their plates spinning at one time. As such, even the most infectious personality can juggle two or three two or three close friends at a time. Since truly close relationships are so rare, it cannot hurt to learn extra insights into making friendships work. This article will discuss more tips for maintaining close and intimate friendships.

Find the Best in Others

The first tip is to proactively seek out the best in others. These days we are constantly barraged with bad news about the faltering economy and shocking discoveries of corruption. It is so easy to become cynical and think the worst. This attitude can leak into our relationships too. However, if you want to maintain your close and intimate friendships you need to force yourself to believe the best of your friends and acquaintances. Being proactive to believe the best will pep you up with enthusiasm which will draw your friends ever closer to you.

Listen Without Judgment

Second, be a shoulder to cry on and an ear that listens without judgment. I admit that I am not good at this. But, everyone needs a sympathetic ear to hear their heartaches and frustrations. No doubt such conversations should happen alone and remain confidential, but a good friend sits hand in hand with his or her dearest companions when they needs to shout “Unfair, unfair!”

Keep Embarrassing Moments Confidential

The third tip is to keep embarrassing moments confidential. This means that as far as it depends on you, you never gossip about a friend’s bloopers. Sure, people should be thick skinned and learn to laugh at themselves, but a close and intimate friendship lives off of trust, especially emotional trust. So be loyal to your bosom buddy when they are not present by not blabbing about their slip ups.

Maintaining close and intimate friendships is not easy in this fast paced life. This article discussed three tips for keeping warm relationships with your dearest companions.

How to Find New Friends

how-to-make-new-friends-003-women-having-fun-things-to-do-with-friends-001-bikingWhen you are younger friendship seemed to come naturally. You sat next to each other every day in math class, you both wore a green shirt to school, you’re a similar age to a co worker in the office or you latch on to the friends of your chosen partner. As we grow up and go through life it becomes harder to make lasting connections with people. Your life can turn into a sea of acquaintances in the blink of an eye. No matter how many pottery classes you take, gym classes you join or volunteer session you do it can be very hard to make lasting friendships with people.

Don’t stress! There are lots of ways to make new friends in our age by following a few simple steps and keeping a positive mind in your mission to find new friends.

Tip 1) Initial contact is the most important step! Although it may seem weird to say to someone of the same sex would you like to go for coffee sometime. If you add that you are new in town and don’t know people or that your best gal pal moved away and you are looking for some more female time to talk about the latest Brad Pitt movie can help to ease the situation.

Tip 2) Smile! We’ve all heard it and we all know it but we all too often forget that a smile to a stranger is the best way to appear friendly and approachable.

Tip 3) Be a Yes person! Much like the movie of the same name, start saying yes to invites you get, classes you get invited to or after work get together. Although you may not initially feel comfortable getting out of the house and off the couch watching TV is the best way to meet new people you wouldn’t normally meet. Make a point of saying more ‘Yes’ than ‘no’ when it comes to social invites.

Tip 4) Go virtual! There are lots of website outs there that allow you to log and connect with others. Try joining an online forum or searching for websites that allow you to make friends locally.

Tip 5) Once you have met someone interesting it takes time and patience to get that person to become a friend. The best way to do this is to listen and ask questions. Remember that most people favorite subject is themselves. Try and focus the conversation or discussion constantly back to the person. Ask them about the jewelery they are wearing. When they mention something in passing, go back and focus on it. “When i traveled to Africa… ” “You’ve been to Africa? What was that like?” Take a genuine interest in the other person and you will never run out of things to talk about.

Tip 6) Be Patient! Studies have shown that it takes at least 6 meetings with a person before you will develop friendly feelings with them. Pick a new movie and invite the friend along, ask them to dinner after class the following week etc. Don’t expect your friendship to blossom over night.

With a little bit of time, smiles and activity you are sure to meet and make some new friends in your life.

Tips to Make Friendship Strong

p_101481704Friendship consists of trust, belief and understanding. Many poets have written lots of quotes to teach us about its importance in life. Many people want to make lots of friends but they don’t know art of making new friends. Many girls and boys make friends but they do not know how to keep friends, sometime they keep friends but don’t know how to make them feel happy. There are many misunderstandings occur in every relationships but many people don’t know how to avoid those complications. They don’t even know how to say sorry to their friends.

This article is all about how to make your friendship unbreakable with the help of some good quotes and jokes. I am sure that you will overcome all of your weakness after going through it.

So here we go:-

Ego:
Yes, ego is the killer of any relationship. Always remember this quote “Life is nothing without friends.” You should keep your ego aside while making up with your mates. Sometimes, your friends are so busy to call/meet you, sometimes they could not express how they love you, so please try to understand their problems. Never keep your expectations too high. Be polite and take initiative to contact them. Talk to them and forget about ego.

Defend them:
Your real exam happens at that time when someone goes against your mates. Be on your their side and try to defend them. The quotation like “A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself” inspire us to help friends. Believe me, when you argue on behalf of your friend, he/she will feel so glad. It takes nothing but an attitude of care for you companion. You need to soothe your mate and stand on his place.

Show him/her clear picture:
Sometime people can not see the truth. So when your friend is not in position to understand the things, get up and help him/her in showing the real picture. If necessary you can rebuke him. He/she may feel wrong at that time, but after sometime he/she will realize how true you were.

Be there in bad time:
Friends help each other in bad time. So when your friends are is in need of your support, be there. Leave all work aside and reach to them for support and help. It helps in making his/her morale and confidence high. Friendship quotes also teach us to help friends i.e. “A friend is one who walks in when others walk out.”

These are some basics to keep your friendship alive. Apply them and enjoy life.

How to be Romantic in Long Distance Relationships

long-distance-relationships-like-crazyThroughout our experience working with long distance couples, we frequently heard that long distance relationship does not have the elements of romance in it. This is not caused by the lack of love in long distance relationship but couples in such situation just do not know how to be romantic to each other. Romance in long distance relationship is necessary and it can make your relationship stronger regardless how far your lover may be.

There are million of things you can do to increase the romance in your long distance relationship. The basic rule here is to build your ability to show your distance partner that you really cherish and value the relationship throughout your LDR. Below are some of the areas you must understand and practice in order to increase the romance in your long distance relationship.

Sweet Talk
Communication is the most important thing in a long distance relationship and you must be able to talk sweetly over the telephone or any cheap channel that you can grab hold. Tell your partner that how you have missed and love them on their absence. Remember to tell your distance partner that you still treasure and care for them even when they are not physically around. Let them know that although you cannot be with them but you constantly think, enchanted and fascinated by them. Sweet talk can never be too much and you can do it as often as you like whenever you got the change to speak or communicate with your distance lover.

Listening with Care
Listening is the next most important thing in long distance relationship. It is important to be able to listen and understand completely the things that your partner is telling you whether it is about their day, wants or dreams. You are their only trusted person that they can look for to share and let their anger off without having to worry and therefore you must be able to listen with care when your partner needs you to lend them your ear. Sharing with your partner will always allow you to build and enhance the romantic moment in your relationship.

Love Note
Nothing is better that a written note with “I love you” message on it. Include this note whenever you send a letter to your distance partner or every time you send something to them. When you had the chance to meet your long distance partner, slip this note into their wallet, handbag, briefcase and etc without their knowledge. The note can be anything from simple “I miss you” to full blown love letter letting you distance partner know how much you have miss him or her.

Virtual Kiss
It may seem that kissing your partner is almost impossible in long distance relationship but you can always give a virtual kiss to your partner. You can always make a lipstick mark on a handkerchief with your mouth or write a “Kiss in Advance” note on a paper and send it to your partner. Tell your partner that you wanted to give them a kiss in advance and ask them to keep the handkerchief or note to remind you of the kiss when he or she sees you the next time.

Having Fun
Having fun is an important and serious matter in long distance relationship. Take the time to have fun with your distance lover. Both of your can always spend your time playing online computer game, surfing the internet, watching a movie at the same time or as well as spending the whole evening telling jokes to each other on the phone. Remember the good times that you both had while together and share them while chatting on the phone. You can also tease and make joke on your partner just to lighten up your conversation from time to time. Anyway you must know the limit as over teasing can cause hurt on your partner. The idea is to have fun while both of you had the opportunity to talk to each other on the phone.

Courtesy and Respect
Courtesy and respect are very important in long distance relationship. You partner may not be physically around but they are still part of your life and a little courtesy or respect can definitely pull both of your closer to each other. Remember to seek for your partner’s opinion in making a decision concerning the relationship and this will indirectly show them that you still care for them. Being romantic is to care, respect and understand your partner regardless where they may be.

Giving Compliments
Complimenting your partner is another way to show that you appreciate them in a long distance relationship. Think of something to complement your distance partner every day or every week. It does not have to be anything big or major. Something like “You look beautiful today” or “Your voice is sweet” will make your partner feel nice about them self even they are far away. On the other hand, you must remember to give only a sincere and honest compliment to your long distance partner. Your partner will certainly feel romantic knowing that you still admire and appreciate them despite the distance.

Above are the areas of romance to get you started and you can always create your own romantic moment by using the above examples. Be passionate about your LDR and romance will automatically show up at your doorstep. Lastly but not least I, on behalf of Perfect-Relationship.com would like to wish you all the best to your long distance relationship.

How To Save A Long Distance Relationship

dating-12-300x300Long distance relationships can be really tough at times. When there is a problem or issue between the couple, it can be even harder because you’re not physically there to work on the problems. However, they can be saved if you know some essential tips and tricks. In this article, we will discuss some important things you should know for how to save a long distance relationship. With a bit of luck and these tricks, you can save your relationship and keep your partner happy.

“Sometimes, a Phone Call Isn’t Enough.”

Usually, a long distance relationship relies on the telephone to fuel it. However, when there are problems in the relationship, sometimes a phone call isn’t enough. You may have to plan a weekend visit in order to spend time with your partner and try to iron out the problems. If the problems aren’t that serious, why not send her a bouquet of flowers and a hand-written note telling her just how much you love her and cherish her? This is a bit different from a phone call and it’s something she can save and reference when she’s feeling lonely or upset.

“You’ll Never Guess What Happened to Me Today!”

One of the reasons that a long distance relationship is so difficult is because a couple isn’t close enough to be a constant part in each other’s lives. With a normal relationship, we often talk to our partners and tell them little things that happened at work, with the family or in the car. These little things keep us involved with each other and feeling close. When you call, the conversation doesn’t always have to be deep and emotional. Simply talk about the little occurrences in your life and this will keep you close and bonded. Of course, it’s important to reassure each other of your feelings as well, but it doesn’t have to be done all the time.

When you’re trying to save a long distance relationship, there are a few tips you want to remember that will help you out.

– Don’t Call Late – your partner has no idea what’s going on with you and if things are already stressed within the relationship, things can really play on her mind. If you say you’re going to call, make sure that you do.

– Keep the Phone Call Happy – When you do call, try to keep things light and positive so the phone call ends on a good note. This will help you both feel better until the next call.

– Visit as Often as You Can – The physical connection has a lot to do with the bonds that hold relationships together. Visit when you can and stay as long as you can.

When you are trying to save a long distance relationship, remember these tips and tricks so you can keep the one you love, even if she is miles away!

Tips for Beginning a Long Distance Relationship

keuntungan dan kerugian long distance relationshipYou know that general rule where there is always an exception to a rule? Long distance relationships are no exception to that. These relationships are not for everyone because not a lot of us can stand being apart from the other.

Distance, this is just one of the main reasons why people avoid getting into a relationship. This is probably due to the belief that being separated from the person you love will be the start of a very complicated relationship, which will eventually end up at the end of it. However, is it really the general ending of what could have been the start of a happily ever after? No, it doesn’t necessarily have to be that way. A story could have multiple endings. We are the authors of our fate, we decide what ending we are going to have.

Getting into a long distance relationship is admittedly going to be much more difficult than those regular short distance ones. Obviously, the couple has to deal with the distance and everything that comes along with it like jealousy, paranoia, doubt, fears and etc. Luckily, long distance couples can now get the 411 on what to do when planning to get into a long distance relationship.

Tip #1. Get to know the other person. It’s not going to be a great feeling getting duped by another human being who is definitely just pretending to be someone they’re not. Long distance relationships are not bad things, but jumping in before looking at where you’re leaping is definitely an act of a fool.

Tip #2. Meet face-to-face. These days, meeting face-to-face doesn’t necessarily mean meeting in person. There are a lot of options to choose from in case you just can’t be there physically to do the meet ups. You’ve got Skype and Yahoo! Messenger to name a few.

If you do decide to meet up in person, choose a venue where there are lots of people. Also, choose a place that has proper ventilation where you guys can talk and see each other clearly. Remember, first impressions last and meeting for the first time is going to leave an imprint on a person’s mind.

Tip #3. Get to know their friends and family. If it is possible, it would be great to get to know the people who your special someone hangs around with. This way, you are going to prevent jealousy because by then, you would have already known who is who in their life. And getting to know their family would also give you a preview of what kind of person he or she is.

Tip #4. Know who to trust. You just can’t please everyone, we all know that. Expect that level of displeasure from people to increase greatly when you plan to get into a long distance relationship. As I said earlier, these kinds of relationships aren’t for everyone. There is always going to be those people who would disagree. Naturally, I’d say don’t listen to naysayers, but seeing that there are those people who have some sense in them and actually are concerned about you, take the time to listen to what they have to say. If you think they’re being unreasonable, by all means, don’t listen to them. But if they are just being helpful, think hard.

Good friends are hard to come by. It might be too late to get them back if you thwart them away when they were just there for you in the first place.